Friday 12 July 2013

And so it begins... Again. Groundhog Day Dressage

Good morning readers - are you all still out there?  Or have you died of old age waiting for my next post?

I must apologize for my delinquency, yet again.  Unfortunately, the happenings of the last few months have really taken the wind out of my proverbial sales. Ooops - did I really type that?  It is an honest Freudian Slip. Because as any of you who enjoy virtual shopping on Warmbloods-for-Sale already know, Ms. V is back. And I am find her the "perfect home".

Up until now, I have done fairly well at poking fun at my misfortune, and in fact I started this blog as kind of a cheap form of therapy to help myself talk through the insanity... but I really am kind of bottomed out right now.

I kept hoping I was going to pull some fairy tale ending out of my ass to share with all of you, but alas, this will not be the case. In less than a year, I have lived through a "sale" gone horribly wrong ("didn't anyone tell you not to trust those people?"...  Said several incredulous acquaintances after the dust settled, not seeing the irony in the fact they they did not tell me not to trust "those people" that actually ironic?  I am always paranoid to use that word after everyone mocked Alanis Moressette ), and a lease gone horribly wrong (stay tuned for my rants on young riders entitled "PSG is hard. Who knew").

The good news is of course that I lived through these things.  The worst news of all is that the one person who I would call up and bitch to when the nutty world of dressage was too much for me to handle - the person who could always make me laugh no matter how whacked out things in the horse world happened to be... has died. I still really can't believe he is gone.

So please bear with me.  Don't worry - you will get to read about all of this someday.
I am sure I will get my shit together and get back to merrily mocking my life soon.


  1. DC - I am so sorry for your loss. I have been checking your blog daily, hoping for an update. Here I was thinking you were out with Mr. Motard enjoying carefree days on Scattails. I'm sorry this is not the case.

  2. I too am sorry about your loss and the "deals gone wrong." I have a difficult time "reading people" well and when "it" hits the fan and then here come my friends with "Boy, are YOU a slow learner" (which just gives me fuel to kick myself a few more times around the block ... ), well, let's just say you are among friends. A lot more of us "learn after the fact"--experience is the toughest teacher--and have to start from Square One the NEXT time we embark on "finding the perfect horse, perfect buyer, perfect teacher ...". We know what you are going through.

  3. I'm so sorry life has thrown you a curve ball - well, several. I hope life allows you to get your shit back together soon because you deserve some peace and I am missing your blog. Wishing you all the best.


  4. What goes around comes around......

  5. Life is sucking for a lot of people right included. But take comfort in that you are trying like hell to do the right thing by your horse. That makes you OK in my book. Everyone else can go ...

    Jane W

  6. Hugs hugs hugs. I'm so sorry for all your difficulties. Where is your mare located? Can you e-mail me her sales ad? I have dressage/warmblood friends stashed all over the place and I'm happy to spread the word.

  7. So sorry to hear about all the trials & tribulations; condolences for your loss. I too thought you were getting some summer outdoor time with the hubby and possibly a few rides.

    Even though I haven't read the entire blog -- what I have found time to read has brought tears and stiffled giggles - I pretended I was choking ;) ... and I'm not a rider
    I have read enough to find your add for MsV -- she is really lovely. Alas way beyond my level (which was bareback on a TWH when I was 18).

    Sooner or later the writing itch will start or some flash-back will need to be corraled into a post. I can wait ... and catchup on some of the older posts.

    M in NC

  8. Ugh... life really sucks ass sometimes. I'd like to say "chin up, life will get better soon... blah, blah, blah". But the reality is that it just sucks ass until it doesn't suck as much. And then eventually it stops sucking for a while.

  9. I am very sorry to hear of your loss of a person who clearly means a lot to you. Also sorry that the course of horse-selling has not run smoothly - from what I've heard that is not uncommon. But that doesn't make your unpleasantness feel any better.

    Hope things improve soon - we will all be ready and waiting to hear about it when you're ready to tell us!

  10. Stephanie, my heart goes out to you. I've lurked all over a few dressage boards for years, read all of your blog and laughed, grrrrd, and could sooo relate to what you went through. This is the very first time I feel like 'outing myself'. Take all the time you need. We'll see you later, no pressure... Brigitte xx (sorry, it's my French side)

  11. You're worth the wait DC. Take some time to feel better, us loyal readers aren't going anywhere.

  12. you're definitely worth the wait. i've learned so much and laughed a lot. hope life gets better, and maybe writing about the current bad stuff on here would help. you have a simpathetic, horse oriented audience.

  13. Sending also my sincere condolences on the loss of your friend, And the unhappy conclusions to a hoped for placement for Ms.V. You have given me tons of great reading and laughs and insights thru this blog. So please accept the (((DC))) and take good care of yourself. Will be waiting for more whenever you write.

  14. Thanks everyone.

    Knowing people are actually reading is inspirational. On a boring flight alone tonight - sounds like a good time for some writing.

    To clarify - it is a good friend who passed away (the friend who said he knew I was not wearing hoochie shorts, because I just don't have the butt for it). Motard and all of the Curmudgeonly parental units and other relatives are alive and well.

    On the bright side, I thought the story for you guys would have ended long ago and that once I caught up to present day that would be the end... but life just keeps handing me new material! :)

  15. Belated entry saying we still read, love what you write, empathize about the inexplicable inability for buyers to be the right people, and sympathize for the loss of a good friend.

    We love ya, Steph


  16. Sorry to hear about your good friend, you're a great gal


  17. Oh my goodness, Ms V, yes please, can I have her yesterday? The perfect forever home with sensible, capable, solvent lady owner who knows she doesn't know everything so knows when to ask for help..... Too bad I'm in the wrong sodding country!
    I'll just carry on loving you and her from afar. You have been keeping me sane on my own journey with my string bean of a boy.
    Keep chin up and post when you are ready xx